Should Moms allow their son to wear a Dress / Skirt?

The first and the best thing a boy could get in his life is Mom. Mom gives unconditional love that the boy could never get anywhere or at any part of his life. That love he experiences at that tender age always remain green in his memories and who is an exception for this?

Should Moms allow their son to wear a Dress / Skirt?

Kids begin to understand the gender difference only at the age of 5 or a bit later. There are several instances reported in the net mostly by Moms revealing the fact that their son has developed a liking for wearing female dresses even before that age of 5. And it is also apparent that they got worried and took him to a doctor or a psychologist to get an idea of what is happening to their son.

The reply they most of the Moms got is that there is nothing wrong in that attraction of boys wearing female dress and when they start understanding the gender difference after the age of 5 they would simply change their attitude. And these comments from the psychologists are also recorded in the net by several Moms. Mostly of the Moms who have reported this also generously admitted that they have allowed their sons to wear female dresses as they wanted only their happiness and could not bear witnessing them becoming disappointed. Moms always take a correct decision about their sons, we know that and my question is what would or should be their stand if their sons’ attraction continues even after they understood the gender difference.

Let us take up the question and answer it step by step.

At that tender age even before understanding about the gender difference why should your son develop an attraction towards female dresses?

Let us not make the answer more complicated with scientific facts and genealogy as the so called pundits in those fields could also not explain the phenomenon with clarity and proof.

As a Mom you will know what your child likes and what are his preferences? It is a general question and we are not getting into specifics like dresses or skirts. A child gets attached to things that are attractive. Their attraction could be shape or size or variety of colour or anything that shines and glitters. They also might get attracted to something that is soft, silky, smooth, lingering that gives a fantastic feeling. All Moms would agree to this and I think no scientist or psychiatrist is going to deny these facts as these are the general feelings that any child gets. They almost do not like anything that is dull or something that is hard for touch.

Every Mom who is reading this might feel something familiar with these descriptions.

Yes.

These descriptions suit well with the dresses you and all females wear.

Is it not natural for your son to get an attraction towards the dress that you and all females have liked for the mere sake that they are beautiful, attractive and convenient to wear?

Why then your son should be denied that attraction, beauty, convenience and the comfort?

Okay. Now let us get into the advanced age of your son when he starts understanding about the gender difference. As most of the psychiatrists have commented this attraction would melt away at this stage.

My question is – Why?

The answer is so simple. When they understand the gender difference they also understand that there is a social constraint that does not allow him to wear female dresses. He knows that he would be looked upon as a strange being and would be laughed at. Even if he still liked that feeling and attracted towards the female dresses he restrains himself and starts leading a life that is expected out of him.

I am not discussing about gender orientation and conditions that make boys become cross dressers or even transgender later. It is the general logic and why only girls be given the comfort of wearing something comfortable and attractive when boys are restricted from doing so?

And it has become common and even socially accepted when a girl wears trousers, pants and shirts as boys do.

Is it not a discrimination?

Sexual Orientation – Homosexuality 2

Let us start this post with a famous quote from Sigmund Freud that was first published in ‘American Journal of Psychiatry in the year 1951.

"Homosexuality is assuredly no advantage, but it is nothing to be ashamed of, no vice, no degradation, it cannot be classified as an illness; we consider it to be a variation of the sexual function produced by a certain arrest of sexual development. Many highly respectable individuals of ancient and modern times have been homosexuals, several of the greatest men among them (Plato, Michelangelo, Leonardo da Vinci, etc.). It is a great injustice to persecute homosexuality as a crime, and cruelty too....

"If [your son] is unhappy, neurotic, torn by conflicts, inhibited in his social life, analysis may bring him harmony, peace of mind, full efficiency whether he remains a homosexual or gets changed...."

If some practice that is of no harm physically or mentally (if practiced safely), then why that given a religious face and condemned throughout the history. A sect of people become famous and earn money and power just by condemning people and practices and without understanding the real reasons behind those intention, there is always a group of people supporting them.

How many individuals and lives would have got shattered due these acts? We cannot count them out, as most will not be reported and what that are reported itself would be uncountable. When ancient people and civilizations understood the psychology of individual and respected their preferences, why we, at this modern era condemn and alienate an act that we know very well that has been practiced throughput the human history.

I am not a supporter of gay culture but I strongly feel that an individual’s sexual orientation is his or her personal choice and no one in the world has the right to interfere in that choice. What is the meaning of just proclaiming that we are living in a free world when we could not freely think, write and practice something that we love without harming or troubling others.

By nature, sex with the opposite sex has some intentions. A male or female expect something in return from the relationship. It could be monetary benefits or reproductive outcome. Everyone knows and it is not limited to one single country that one gets wed locked he should remain so throughout the life irrespective of whether love remains between them or not. They might hate each other, despise each other’s personality. But still they have to stay together because of social restrictions and monetary considerations.

If anyone want to get out of that tie he would be subjected to such a pressure mentally and legally to such an extent that one would go almost mad. Law and legal procedures are so one-sided in this aspect with the retention that the weaker sex should be protected. A male seeking diverse may have to pay a great deal of money as alimony, first as a lump sum and then as a monthly allowance for the up keeping of the female.

There is another mad thing that is going on in this world. Females fighting for equal rights and against the discrimination they face. If they are equal to a male then why they need protection from a male and a demand for alimony is made. Why the so called feminists come against the laws that support females considering them as weaker sex.

Females at least should accept that they are weaker sex if they want protection from males or should fight against all the laws that help them saying that they are weaker sex.

But these kind of a selfish intentions are absent in homosexuality. It would be pure love or the very simple intention of just enjoying the life. No future bindings claiming that one is weaker than the other. Gay culture seems to be more pure and the relationship might be a relaxing change for males who are fed up with the pretensions of the females.

Other articles by the author:

http://flamingfemina.blogspot.in/2015/02/welcome-to-world-of-cross-dressing.html

http://flamingfemina.blogspot.in/2015/02/male-to-female-transformation-dreams.html

http://flamingfemina.blogspot.in/2015/02/male-to-female-transformation-dreams_6.html

http://flamingfemina.blogspot.in/2015/02/sexual-orientation-of-cross-dresser.html

http://flamingfemina.blogspot.in/2015/02/sexual-orientation-homosexuality.html

Sexual orientation – Homosexuality

As this topic is popular and controversial, the response I got for the first article Sexual Orientation of Cross dressers 1 and 2 were immense and as expected most were negative comments telling that I am mad and spreading wrong information and so on. I really could understand this, as all controversial matters get only this kind of response initially. I know now if I come out to the open some might physically harm me. But I am not worried and I shall continue to write what I think is right and spread the word among the like- minded people.

I do agree that Sex with male and genetic females is natural and helps the most important cause of reproduction. And above all it is prevalent with almost all the living beings and is universally accepted. But it doesn't mean that the most progressive and innovative of the living being could change and bend the law a bit in a manner to suit their lifestyle.

This blog is not a technical or a medical blog and I am not going to go in detail about the developments and findings on this topic medically. The genetic engineering is growing at a real fast pace but as far I know there is not a single assured and assertive proof for how the sexual orientation is decoded. But every one agree that genetics might throw light on this subject in the days to come and I know like me and people like me are not going to wait for a scientific evidence to emerge to guide our lives.

There is another aspect that both scientific and social circles do accept without dispute is that this is more connected with psychology and influenced by social behaviors and circumstances.  Such instances of sex among same sex is termed generally as homosexuality and as this term is more popular we shall start using the term hereafter.

Homosexuality in Ancient Americas:

North America:

Before the period when European civilization entered in Americas there is proof that homosexuality was practiced by the then locals. Those having this same sexual orientation are identified in the early stage of life itself and they were called as two-spirit individuals in their own language as Shamans. Even though the individuals are identified by parents and elders of the family at an early stage of life, they were given the choice of selecting their lifestyle as they start maturing physically and psychologically.

These two-spirit individuals were brought up with education provided about the customs and behavioral patterns of this sect of people. These people were considered to possess special powers and were revered as extra-ordinary personalities. Their sexual relationship with the same sex was recognized and approved. This magnanimous attitude and considering man with sexual orientation with the same sex is missing today and think we are not talking about them being superior to people having regular sexual orientation.

South America:

Homosexuality and transgender behaviors were common among local people in South America even. People belonging to ancient civilizations of Latin America like Aztecs, Mayans, Zapotecs, Quechuas, Moches and Tupinamba had the culture that openly recognized homosexuality.  

The invaders from Spain found this practice disgusting as they witnessed homosexual relationship openly among these people. They introduced severe penalties for such behavior that included public execution by burning such individuals and supporters by burning them publicly and even letting their dogs bite them and tearing their fleshes to death.  The Spanish invaders considered homosexuality as barbarian and as civilized people we now can easily come to a conclusion that their behavior of executing them so brutally is barbaric.

The story does not end here. There are other ancient civilizations around the world practicing homosexuality and such practices were crushed and destroyed brutally by these so called modern conservationists who in my view are modern conservationists who destroyed ancient conservative culture. We shall discuss this topic in detail in my forthcoming posts.

Other Article by the Author:

Male to Female transformation - Dreams, Fantasies and Facts 1
Male to Female transformation - Dreams, Fantasies and Facts 2
Welcome to the World of Cross-dressing

Sexual orientation of a Cross dresser

It is a question that is asked by everyone but no one knows the answer. Most of those who ask the question come to a conclusion that cross dressers are gays and are sexually oriented towards males. How just dresses could make one come to a conclusion about an issue which is still unanswered by science.

As we have seen in my earlier posts every man has a love for female dresses and only the social barriers stop them to try them out and get into the open. But I would say that who brave the fear and come out in female dress both virtually and as a person are manlier than those who are frightened to do that. My thoughts infuriate a lot of conservationists and hear objections and abuses for writing like this.

I do not care for those who speak out loud hiding their inner thoughts might have an inner feeling that is feminine. But I pity them as they could not bravely come out and satisfy those inner desires. I know even them like female dresses and the feel of it which would have had with some female or other. But have they tried them on and felt how elated the feeling they would get. Okay, let us not bother about the customs and conventions and if needed would fight them even.

Just because a male gets attracted to female dresses one cannot say that his sexual orientation is tilted towards males. I am not telling this without thought or analysis. I am never attracted towards a male and many cross dressers with whom I have interacted also have revealed the same thought. There is no bad intention intended for gays as I know well that it is natural for a male to have attraction towards a male.

This male to male attraction could be due to genetic reasons or even due to social conditions. It is still a debatable issue as science is yet to arrive at a solid explanation. But it is true that this attraction exists and is recognized by many nations and cultures. I will be writing about that attraction in detail in my future posts.

But is also true that some cross dressers are attracted towards males but majority of them are not. But in social circles there is a misconception about hat and that’s why you can see cross dressers have more friends and followers than males. This attraction is also due to the fact that all males are attracted towards female dresses. Only this attraction is getting translated to the attraction towards the cross dressers.

Some might think that I am exaggerating but this the truth and I have no fear in telling that loud enough to reach those conservationists. The biggest shame of all this is those who oppose the very trend and taste have a craving for the female dresses deep inside their minds. 

The conclusion I got from all my research and analysis is that men are suppressing their desire for female dresses only because of social reasons without understanding that the very social conditions are created by us.

The day is not far away when a freedom will appear universally to let all the males enjoy the soft, smooth and attractive female dresses without fear like females do now with male dresses now.

Male to Female Transformation – Dreams, Fantasies and Facts 2

We have seen that most of the males have a fantasy for female dresses in my earlier post, Male to Female transformation – Dreams,Fantasies and Facts 1. In this post we shall we shall discuss how some of them get that fantasy fulfilled.

I have discussed with many closet cross dressers and almost everyone have revealed to me that, they had this fantasy from their early childhood itself and they had started dressing as a female at the tender age of 10. Most of them had tried their sister’s dress or their friend’s or relative’s dress. At that period of life they would not have had the analytical capability. They would not have even planned for it. But something within their body or their genes had made them try this risky exercise.

You cannot even say that they are wrong as the decision is not taken by them voluntarily. The inner mind that got instilled at the time of inception had played its role and made them do the unbelievable. Some had gotten away with that but some were caught red handed and were punished for their abnormal behavior by their parents.

Those who remained undiscovered continued to dress as they wished in privacy whenever they got the right occasion and things. With their fantasy fulfilled they have remained as cross dressers throughout their life but have done so in privacy without the knowledge of close relatives, friends and society. Since their curiosity and fantasy got fulfilled most of this category had not stepped out or taken a bold decision of getting concerted permanently. There are certain cases in this category who have done so but those incidences are rare though.

But those unfortunate enough to get caught at their tender age restricted, restrained and mentally abused by parents and they feared even to perform the act in privacy later on as they did earlier in privacy. But the genes and the fantasies residing in them are permanent and would never diminish or disappear.

Their craving for female dress would be developed inside the mind with suppressed anger waiting for a chance to explode. This is a very dangerous phenomenon that had led them to take decisions that changed their life completely and even brought their lives to gutters. Parents and relatives who have restricted them now feel for their behavior and think that they should have allowed their son to take the decision of shaping his own life.

Some others in this category who did not have the guts to take a bold decision but had kept their emotions within themselves had even got married. Some of those who got married started doing secret sessions in hotel rooms or with like-minded friends and they have escaped dire consequences. But some who did not get the opportunity ended up with failed marriage that had filled their life full of sorrow. There are now branded as failures in society even though they possesses excellent qualities and nature.

Desire arising from the inner depth of the mind of a male to get dressed as female is natural and has scientific and genetic ties with it. It should not be suppressed as this results in consequences that almost ends their happy and successful life. The social consciousness also needs to be changed. Females are wearing almost all the male dresses with freedom and they are not considered outcast and why this discrimination extended only to the males who wish to get dressed up with female dress?

Male to Female Transformation – Dreams, Fantasies and facts 1

Male to Female Transformation has in recent days gained prominence in media especially in social media. But there is very little awareness about the topic among people and there are lots of misconceptions and unanswered questions. In this blog I would like to discuss about various aspects related to the topic that are quite interesting and informative as well.

Every male has a feminine quality deeply hidden inside the mind. This is not just a statement that I make but it is also a fact that has been discussed and accepted by many religious beliefs.

Psychological studies also prove this to be a fact. But most of the males do not get a chance to explore the inner depths of the mind and end their lives not discovering the pleasant truth. Some get interested, analyse the subject, get themselves informed and forget it.

Most of the males who are attracted to females also get attracted to female dresses and the feel for it. Just touching and feeling a Bra or Panty arouses sexual desire in men. But they normally think that it is because of the reason that females wear them and touching their intimate dresses gives a feeling of touching a female. This is only partially true. There are some hidden facts behind that desire.

Hands do have sensations, there is no doubt. But surely hands are not the most sensitive part of your body. Just imagine when a mere touch with your hand could give such a feeling of arousal, how other private parts would feel while coming in touch with those intimate apparel of females. It is very hard to explain the kind of feeling you will get and it would be better you just create an opportunity to experience it yourself.

Everyone could certainly get access to a Bra or a Panty of a close female relative or even a friend. Use them for a trial purpose and wear when you are alone. The touch of your private parts of the body with those soft cloths would immediately make you feel ecstatic and you would have felt arousal even before you have started wearing it and after wearing that feeling would have increased to such an extent that you could no longer control yourself.

I am hearing voices saying that, ok, this is true and that is because we know those dresses were touching those private parts of the female to whom it belonged and that is the reason for that arousal. I too agree with that, but this is only the first test and as you are now convinced that there is something with the touch of female dress, now let us get into the next step.

Purchase a Bra and panty and take it to a private place and try it on. Experience it and tell me if you have felt the same feeling that you felt when you were wearing other female’s intimate dress. I am sure that you would have felt the same experience even in this case as this is my experience and many other’s whom I know.

Yes, a majority of the male population feels the same way, but they do not understand it in the first place. Even if they understand they would be afraid to try that out. But some bold males who are not bold enough to come out with female cloths do that in privacy. A few come out boldly with female dress. Out of the very few only a minor portion get the desire, conviction and clarity to go for gender transplant operation.

Now, we shall discuss in detail about every type of male separately and their sexual orientation…

Meet you girls in my next post!